Tuesday, July 29, 2008

I'm Developing Cold Feet About My Wedding

It's just three weeks to my wedding and I'm starting to feel some uncertainty about the whole thing.

I 'm beginning to think that I may be taking the wrong step and I'm not as fond of my wife-to-be anymore. I really don't know what it is but I have nothing against my woman, I'm just confused.

Should I go ahead?

My Uncle 'Wants' Me

I have stayed with my Aunt since I was twelve years to help her with her young children and to also make it possible for me to attend school (she and her husband pay my fees and provide my needs). At the time I moved to my mother's place, her husband had traveled outside the country.

My Aunt's husband return home four years ago -when I was twenty - and appeared to like me a lot. He'd buy me little treats whenever he went to work and showered with me with expensive gifts on special occasions like my birthday. One day when we were alone at home, he told me he was struck by looks and that he fell in love with me the very minute he set eyes on me. I was shocked speechless. He subsequently began pestering me to sleep with him which I refused.

The harassment has been going on for three years now and I don't know what to do. I fear that if I tell my Aunt or any of our relatives, it might ruin the marriage altogether and that would be the end of my schooling too - I'm in a university now. My friends at school too think that I should give in to the man's advances as some guy would sleep with me anyway at some point.

I'm confused and need help badly.